I have. I had my husband pull the car over so I could stop to knock on the door.
Let me back track a bit...
My husband and I grew up in the same little beach town, so when we go back "home", it really is home to both of us. His parents still live there and my dad still lives there. Our friends' parents still live there too. It's a town where usually everyone knows your name...kinda like Cheers, but not a bar.
Just about every time we make that trip over to the beach, I almost always ask my husband if we can go by my old home. So we do. It's the same every trip, I narrate who used to live where {usually close neighbors and kids from grade school or HS} and then just as we get to my house, I ask him to slow down. And then I say, "I really wish I could see what it looks like inside."
The only difference between this story and all the others is that I actually did ask to go inside. When my husband pulled the car over, I hopped out and asked him if he wanted to come. He had zero interest in going inside and not because I don't think he would have appreciated it, I think he was just weirded out by it. Heart pounding and flying solo, I walked up to the front door and knocked.
Okay, wait, let me just stop here. I was totally unsure of what I was asking. I mean, it is a little weird to ask someone you don't know to walk into their house and look around. I get it. Plus, I could've been a crazy escapee from the local jail.
When a woman answered the door, I hesitated for a second, then told her my story. She smiled at me and then opened the door up for me to come inside. It was definitely strange being in the house because everything was different. Walls were knocked down, spaces enclosed, and carpeting ripped out. But, even with everything looking so different, it still kind of felt the same.
The family was very kind and open to small chit-chat. We talked about all their remodeling and some of our old neighbors. I asked to look outside and everything looked the same...the pool, the yard, the canal, the houses on the other side of the canal. That was the only time I got a little choked up. I think just because so many birthday parties, pool parties, and conversations about boys took place out there. Good memories.
I didn't ask to tour the whole house because I felt that was a little too intrusive. So after about fifteen minutes I thanked them and said good-bye.
I don't think I stopped talking about it the whole car ride back to my husband's parent's house. I was a total chatterbox. It really was a neat experience laced with a little emotion. It's one of those moments in life where you cherish every second, then store it away somewhere to remember for a long time.
So how about you? Have you ever wished you could see your old childhood home? Have you ever walked through it? I'd love to hear your stories too.
xo,
jen





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I've thought about the opportunity, but I don't think I want to do it. I've heard of some remodeling they've done, and that helped me to disconnect and really view it as "their" house (whoever they are) and not mine. It's sort of an abstract concept that I wouldn't want to deal with in the concrete. I like the memories and pictures of my childhood home, but I don't think I'd enjoy the surreal experience of seeing other people's stuff in my old room/spaces. All the same, I surely hope it looks completely different. We had shag carpeting and wood paneling. Lol.
ReplyDeleteOh, I'd love to see my childhood home! I've seen the outside, and mourned the loss of our old playhouse in the back yard. My mom brought that house from the brink of being condemned back to a cheerful and bright (if a bit messy) home.
ReplyDeleteLoved this post! My childhood home is about 2 miles from my home...I do drive by it often and tell my kids that is where I grew up, that is the window mommy snuck out of- just kidding!! :) I have not been on the inside, but love driving by-- the memories flood in like no tomorrow! Very cool that you got to go inside your home, neat post! Thank you so much for sharing! Jen
ReplyDeleteI grew up in the Philippines and have very distinct memories of the large house we lived in with my grandparents and, of course, our maids. When I went back with my mother about 15 years later, we visited the house and discovered that some other missionary friends lived there. They let us tour the whole place. It was so surreal. The decorations were very different, but not much else.
ReplyDeleteThis is sooo sweet! I'm glad my parents still live in the same house during my childhood time. Of course everything has changed, the colour and the interior, my parents even made a major renovation to the house. Yeah even with the major changes, I still felt the same way. Every time I closed my eyes I can still see me running around with my favorite doll..
ReplyDeleteI have driven by my childhood home. Had someone been outside I might have stopped and talked to them and asked to see inside. My grandparents lived right next door. There house had a fire and was no longer there. Another one set back farther from the street was there in its place. I loved their old home. That part was sad.
ReplyDeleteGlad you got to relive some memories.
Yes - I've done that and had the same reaction you did! Wanted to share a story from the other side though -- we lived in a big old Victorian that we redid from top to bottom so had lots of requests for visits just from curiosity. One day a very nice older fellow showed up with a camera and asked to go through because he had grown up there. We were so excited to find out more about the house so spent time giving him the tour and asking questions. The more he talked, the more puzzling became his answers. They just didn't match what we had done and knew previous owners had done. Finally he was ready to leave and thanked me saying he would never forget living at 4812. Our address was 4218! He was gone before I could tell him -- with a camera full of pictures of the wrong house.
ReplyDeleteMy parents still live in my childhood home so I get to visit it whenever I want. I still sleep in my old room when I go back. It still feels like my home too. It's funny because my hubby's parents still live in his childhood home too. I'm sure it was cool to be able to go back and see it.
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My parents still live in the house where I grew up, with my grandparents just down the street. I notice the little changes that have been made whenever we visit, but it is still much the same as it was growing up. We lost my grandpa last year and my grandma is getting up there in years and won't be here forever. I wonder what will happen to their house in the years to come. I would like to see my other grandma's house where my mom grew up. I'm sure it has changed with different owners, but it still holds lots of memories. If I were ever to visit I would probably drive by, but I don't know that I would have the courage to ask to go in.
ReplyDeleteI've always wished I could do exacelty what you did!! I lived in the same home until I was 21, and the year I moved out for good, was the same year my parents sold the family farm. It was a very strange feeling, suddenly I felt like I had no "home" to go home to. May parents new home was no longer mine at all. I would LOVE to take a tour of our old home, and see what they did with it!
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ahh... that is so neat that you did that. I sometimes drive by my childhood home but I have never had the nerve to ask to go inside. Maybe some day.
ReplyDeleteHow brave of you! I'm sure it's a memory you'll never forget. I'm lucky, my parents still live in the same home and I live about 10 minutes away from them. I get to "go home" all the time.
ReplyDeleteYou're braver than I! But I do wish I could do this. See the backyard, the insides where we had birthdays and my baby brother was born.
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I have been back - but I had been told about the "changes" (Walls missing, unusual paint colours etc.) inside, and being that I'd just lost my dad, it was all a bit much. So I settled for wandering around the gardens, sniffing the sweet scented fresh air, and looking out across the fields and remembering. It was good therapy. :)
ReplyDeleteAm thinking that Miranda Lambert was thinking this same thing when she sang "The House that Built Me". xoxo
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I've been in my old house! It was totally emotional and sort of awful. The people who live there now are actually hoarders so it was so hard seeing the place covered, absolutely covered in papers and cats, no carpet on the floors, barely painted walls, the lawn uncared for. But it's okay because I still have memories of my willow tree and sesamee street wallpaper, big bright kitchen and lovely canal in my heart. xo-Pat
ReplyDeleteLoved your post about visiting your old home. I have always driven past mine whenever I was nearby, and one day, was startled to realize I couldn't find it on my old block. It was completely torn down and in the middle of reconstruction into a two story behemoth. I was so shocked to see that it was gone - pool and all. I got out of the car and took pictures, then called my big brother who drove out a couple days later to mourn with me on its loss. Silly to think of now, but I am glad to hear others feel the same way I do about where we grew up!
ReplyDeleteI was able to go through my childhood home last summer! It's a big old Victorian and I was devastated when my parents sold it ten years ago. The new owners have done some beautiful remodeling but when I went up to the third floor nothing had been touched. It looked exactly the same and even smelled the same. It's amazing how many memories a house can hold. My brothers always had weird pets growing up, rats, mice, a snake. etc. The snake had gotten loose and we never found it. After talking with the new owners of the house, when they heard about the missing snake they freaked out! During their remodeling they had found the snake's remains curled up in the ceiling above one of the light fixtures. Mystery solved for them and us!
ReplyDeleteMy parents still live in the house they bought before I was born. I grew up there with my older brothers and sister and though the barns have now been sold for development and have new people living in them the house and main garden are still the same and the wild bit at the far end of the plot is still theirs too. It's great going home. :o)
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